Tips For Parenting A New Child

  • BE HONEST
    • Please try to remember that you wouldn't like to be lied to, and neither do they. Try to be as honest as you can, and remember to treat them as you would want to be treated. Do not look at them as children, but as little people. Be careful, because they're not a toy.
  • BE OPEN
    • Try to be open with your child. Do not be closed up, but try to open communication paths. It's okay if you don't know something or don't agree with something. It's okay to be joyful, child-like, hurt or even angry. These emotions are normal, and it's good to be open about them with your children.
  • BE RESPECTFUL
    • Just because you're older doesn't mean you know everything. They may be children, but children can teach you something. Remember that they are people, and they have rights, just like you. Don't talk down to them or shrug them off. Treat them as equals, and you will be rewarded with wonderful children. If you don't, they'll be every parent's worst nightmare.
  • BE LOVING
    • Everyone needs love. Remember that what you do, say or think does have consequenses, and can hurt someone. Don't take yoru anger, hurt and trials of life out on your children. Remember that they can see more than the normal child. They will spot things that you will think they can't. Realize, though, that they will love you no matter what. They may know more than they let on, so don't think they'll hate you for a tiny mistake.
  • BE COMPASSIONATE
    • Try to be understanding. Listen, learn and try to understand them. Communicate your point of view to them. Don't try to press your own mind on them, because the results won't be good. If you were them, you'd want to be listened, accepted and understood as well. Just because they're smaller than you does not mean you can push them around or act like they don't know anything and are toys for you to do anything you please with.  
  • REMEMBER THAT THEY ARE PEOPLE TOO.
    • A person is a person at any age. They have their own thoughts, their own dreams, hopes and minds. Bring it out in them, but don't let yourself think they're like you. They're a person, as you are a person. By forgetting that, you can ruin their lives.
  • ACCEPT WHO AND WHAT THEY ARE, NO MATTER WHAT IT MAY BE.
    • These children HAVE to know you love and accept them, no matter what. If they have psychic abilities, try to accept that. You are the most important figures in their lives. What you do now will effect what happens later. They feel more deeply than any child and, even if it doesn't show, they love you very much. They accept you, so try to accept them. If they have a disorder, such as ADHD, ADD or Autsim, accept them! Let them know they are loved. You can't allow them to feel like they are diseased, unwanted and flawed. That is the worst thing that can happen to any of them. Be there for them! It's EXTREMELY important.
  • LISTEN TO THEM
    • You wouldn't want to be ignored. Remember that they wouldn't want to be ignored either. Be ready to listen to them.
  • EXPLAIN THINGS TO THEM
    • If you ask them to do something, make sure they know why you are asking them. They won't obey you blindly. They do want a say in things and they do want to know why they are being asked to do things and what the purpose of that thing is, but do this because you want to, not because some famous doctor says to do it. They can tell the difference, and they won't listen to you. It's not that they are ignoring you. They are proving a point to you, and they can be proud people. To them, that is saying you are better than them, and they won't accept that.
  • BE FAIR
    • Do you like being treated fairly and equally with others? Yes, probably. They like to be treated fair also. Try to be fair in all things. You would want it in their situation. Don't let anything make you think they don't want it.
  • TALK TO THEM
    • Talk to them. Communication is SO important. I can't stress that enough. Even if the conversation is silly or stupid, you are talking to them and that's important! If you don't know how to talk to them, just open your mouth and say it. That could lead somewhere. Talk about anything and everything. JUST TALK!
  • BE A PARENT!
    • It is common these days to see those parents who are trying to find the shortcuts in raising their children. They use television, drugs, educational toys, free time to run around and much more to avoid being a parent. That is the worst thing you can do to your child. Be a parent.
      You are a parent, which is NOT a synonym for 'wall decoration' and should never be seen as such!!!