Indigo Problems

"Raise the child, but respect the old soul that dwells within."
Author Unknown

The undying warrior spirit and passion of the Indigo Children won them a place in the hearts of all who knew them. When understood, it was those that knew them, took care of them and befriended them that learned what the true meaning of being an indigo child was. They watch as these children moved like a storm through their environments, tearing down all the outdated systems while rebuilding new ones they saw as fit to exist. They forced open the eyes of those around them, taught them to love like children, grow like children and live like children. It was through the Indigo Children, that these people truly learned the miracles of God, and the meaning of Life, true Power and true Knowledge. They admired these children, tried to be like these children and tried, ultimatly, to understand them. They experienced their love, caring, faithfulness and passion. They changed their world by being who and what they were, even if they weren't aware of it.

In spite of everything, though, these children are not without their challenges to their caretakers and parents. There isn't a child in existence that doesn't pose a challenge at one time or another. It is almost a requirement of growing up that all children be challenges to adults, so you can expect that even the indigos will not be immune to this. While they are 'indigos,' they are also children and, as with all children, work is required to raise them. They can have problems, just as any other child, but their problems can be unique, needing unique solutions. While there are those problems that are normal for any child, there are those that can seem strange and rootless. They can confuse you and intimidate you as a parent, but being aware of these possible problems can also help you help yourself and/or your child.

The indigo anger is the first problem you'll encounter. These children, due to their warrior personalities, can have intense righteous anger. The anger isn't negative (hate, for an example) based, but often based on selfless problems, such as the state of humanity and the world at large or even the health of mother nature. The anger stems from their deep positive emotions, the care and love they feel for all people in general (even if they don't show it--there are those individuals who are proud). The anger of this nature can lead to fustrations (at helplessness in these matters or the seeming unwillingness of people to deal with these problems), grief (that it does exist and is happening), depression and all asortment of problems, because they do have deep emotions. Besides grief and fustrations, this anger, and the emotions it leads to, can lead an indigo to become emotionally barren and/or controlled. It can lead them from expressing many emotions to expressing very little. This is due to the fact that it can go far enough where the emotions become too much for the person, and they shut down. If an outlet is provided, they can remain emotionally open, but if it's cooped up inside of them, then they become less emotionally expressive and tend to become controlled, and possibly cold.

The anger problem can be dealt with through physcial or creative activity--something that allows the person to express themselves. If they have a problem, tell them to write or draw or even do something of the physical nature. It allows them to relieve that anger, and deal with the emotions that can come with it. Talk to them about why they are angry and what they are angry about, as well as any other emotions they may be feeling. If they can't talk to you, try to do something with them to put them at ease. It's important that they have an outlet for their emotions. Instead of counting to ten, they have to express it in some way, because this isn't an anger that is based on something normal.

There are some indigos that can be impulsive and vocal about their opinions. As a parent, or even an indigo yourself, you have to watch out for impulsiveness. If a wrong is being done to a person(s), the indigo anger can snap. An indigo child, while they'll deal with ill actions done towards them for a time, won't often deal with negative actions done towards another. They will stand up to the plate and fight for that person. It is a part of the warrior personality that can be dangerous in the sense that not all indigos can deal with issues vocally, but sometimes can lash out when they can't get their point across. There are times when indigos are more efficiant at non-verbal methods of communication rather than verbal communication, and can prefer not to speak. Due to this, they can have problems dealing with issues vocally, so, for those indigos, watch out with the agressive actions, such as hitting. Try to talk things out vocally, because hitting is a bad habit to get into.

When an indigo is in a situation that upsets them, such as a bad home life or treatment they don't like, they can get aggressive, angry, violent and out of control if you don't listen to them and take the time out to evaluate yourself and them.  The indigo children are more instinctual than the average child, so they will react to something negative before they realize that they are. They will get uneasy and/or upset at the smallest changes, or off feelings or anything that anybody else will normally not sense and overlook. If they are in an environment that isn't right with them, they can lash out at you for no apparent reason and will act out. They are sensitive children, and they don't always realize that they are picking things up when they are. If you have a good bond with your child, you will know, but if you don't, the best thing is to take them aside and try to talk to them about what has them upset. If they don't know, wait and observe them, taking note of behavior changes from time to time and action to action. You will pick up patterns.

These children are highly sensitive and do require special care. They can't be in just any environment, or with just anyone. They are sensitive to everything, whether they realize it or not. It's up to you as the parent to realize these sensitivities and to remember to take care of the child.

Besides their emotions, the most dangerous of problems, in my opinion, an indigo child can face is their tendencies to isolate themselves. If there is nobody they can relate to on a deep level, such as their parents, they will cut themselves off from people, isolating themselves in every situation. They won't socialize, no matter how much pushing you do. If this happens, you have to make an effort to connect to them. It's important to try to avoid this isolating state because it can progress, and, if their sensitivity becomes to much, they can become autistic like, much like the crystal children, and seek refuge in their own little world. They can develope commuication problems, and have difficulties sociallizing with others. The indigo, unlike the crystal, can avoid this themselves, and remain at a point that the state isn't fully autistic, so you can help them, but it's better to avoid this problem. These children need a person around them who is like them, or a person they have a deep connection to, but remember not to overdue it or force it too much. It's important to remember to take it easy and realize that these children are independent souls that do like to travel at their own pace at times like that. (It does, however, depend on you and/or your child, so it can differ.)

The common causes of isolation is usually problems with popular chat topics. While others are talking about people, sex, celebrities, fashion and whatnot, the indigo child usually likes to talk about science, technology, history, medicine and so on. Their conversations can be more thoughtful and indepth than what people are used to. When met with what is thought by the indigo to be meaningless babble, they will begin to isolate themselves from others, only talking to those who can talk to them on the same level. When they are laughed at and teased for their interest and knowledge, the indigo child can often withdraw into their own world, or lash out at what they feel is causing the problems.  

The indigo can also feel isolated and alone, therefore either seeking out suitable company or withdrawing. The causes can differ from person to person, but they can also take root in psychic abilities that indigos tend to have. Being psychic isn't always easy, because it does limit you in what you can do and who you can talk to. A person can be the nicest individual you've ever met, but if the way they feel makes you uneasy, you're not likely to talk to them for very long. Their abilities can also limit the size crowds they can be in, or who they can befriend. While there are the upsides, but there are downsides as well. When faced with this, try to, again, talk to them, and respect their feelings. While you may not experience what they do, remember that they do experience it, and they do deal with it in their own ways. In any situation, communication is vital, and should never be shrugged off or forgotten.

The one problem that can cause much grief for an indigo child is their tendencies to be arrogant, and act like royalty. In all honest, they don't always realize they do this, and it's not on purpose. While this can't be changed, talk to the child about it and be honest. There are times that people can take honesty for being arrogant and, in those cases, the child isn't at fault. There are times when people simply can't handle and/or don't like the truth. However, if the arrogance is based on lies, then you should speak to the indigo about being honest. It's important to remember, though, that there is nothing wrong with self-esteem, believing in yourself and your own worth. A person should never be forced to feel inferior and unworthy simply to please another. The arrogance is a two edged sword, and one that I'll leave you to deal with in your own way.

However, I can stress that indigos do not do this in a negative way frequently (they can have bad days), and they don't always realize they do it. They are not doing it to be better than others. It is simply something that is a part of them. There are many characteristics to the indigo children that adults may find hard to deal with. They real keys to raising a healthy indigo child, or any child for that matter, is to accept the way they are, love them for that and to never try to make them into a miniture version of you. These children are going to voice their opinions, challenge you, insist on being included in any and all decisions as well as many other things. The adult has to accept how their indigo child is, try to understand them, and also to let them be who and what they are. When dealing with an indigo child, a person will eventually realize that outburst, rebellions and whatnot are based on pure intentions, rather than what a 'normal child' would do. It's often said that the indigo child can be every parents worst nightmare, or the best child in the world if you know what you're doing. 

The problems of indigos can change from person to person, and there can even be problems that are indigo based, but unique to the person. The important part to remember is to not let them go untreated. It is also good to remember that indigos are more emotional and instinctual than your average person. They won't be the same way you were when you were children. The most important thing to remember is to think of them as their own person, and not tossed into a catagory with millions of others. Please try to remember that the problems named here are only a few, but they are the more frequent ones. Being aware that they exist can lead to a healthy future and much troubles avoided. While doing research will help, it's ultimatly up to you to help that child create a lifetime or love, joy, peace and harmony or a lifetime of pain, hatred, anger and violence.

All in all, the future is really in your hands.